Yoram Yasur Abt : “Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength” said Corrie ten Boom, a Dutch writer and activist who knew very well what she was talking about since she gave refuge to people persecuted by the Nazi regime during the Holocaust. However, we often let our concerns take over and lead us straight into the most dangerous currents, just the ones that can make us run aground. When we do not stop them, the worries are far from their purpose, which is to help us prepare for possible obstacles and inconveniences, and make us lose ourselves in a sea of thoughts, fears, and insecurities.
Yoram Yasur Abt: “The main problem is that normally we do not realize since it is a process that takes place semi-automatically. It all starts with a small concern, which is getting bigger and bigger and gives rise to other concerns. It is thought in free fall, which has been linking one idea with another, often without much logic”.
The mortal trap of concerns:
Yoram Yasur Abt :The main problem of concerns lies in its plural. That is, the usual thing is that something punctual and precise we worry, and act accordingly to clear the doubts or devise a plan of action before possible eventualities. However, when several “concerns” arise, it is because the process of looping has already begun, which means that we are paralyzed, worrying about things that do not even make sense and that will probably never happen because they are too far from the initial concern.
Yoram Yasur Abt : In this way, we are involved in a spiral of ruminant thoughts that generate a negative mood and, if that were not enough, steal our energy. In fact, there is nothing like the worries to bring about an authentic energetic hemorrhage. When we worry, we not only see the gray world but we also lose hope and strength.
A simple technique to get rid of worries:
Yoram Yasur Abt: “The good news is that you can rewire your brain to silence the “circuit of worry”. You can decide that worries will not be an additional problem in your life. You’ll need some practice but it’s not that complicated”.
Yoram Yasur Abt : With this technique, called the “Delete Button”, if you are persistent, you will achieve a major change in about four or six weeks. Just imagine that in the center of the palm of your hand there is a button. Press it and count to five. The secret is that you must imagine each number in a different color and you should not pass the other until you see it well.
Breathe and count 1, thinking about the color red.
Breathe and count 2, thinking of the blue color.
Breathe and count 3, thinking about green.
Breathe and count 4, thinking of the yellow color.
Breathe and count 5, thinking about the mauve color.
When you exhale, stop thinking for a moment.
Yoram Yasur Abt : This technique is based on the idea that we have a margin of 90 seconds to get rid of a stressful thought before it becomes a concern that will trigger other concerns. The delete button in the palm of your hand consumes precisely that lapse of time. Basically, what you do is distract the most irrational part of your brain, which is the one that reacts to stress and worries. Like a small child with a tantrum, you cannot dialogue and use logic with that area of the brain, so a simpler strategy is to distract.
Yoram Yasur Abt : In fact, a study conducted at University College London revealed that the brains of people who worry excessively works differently. In practice, it is as if you pay too much attention to the things you consider a threat, even if they are not present. It is as if the brain is permanently connected with worry. Distracting it will help to break that connection or weaken it.
Yoram Yasur Abt : In any case, the interesting thing is that the more you practice this technique, the more you will strengthen self-control, so that you can avoid the useless worries and suffering that they generate more easily.